Burning Bridges

Not long ago, the newspapers reported the marriage between Princess Mary (PM) and the Prince of Denmark (PoD) has come under strain. It is because the PoD still keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriends and PM is not happy about it.

My question is “Is it wrong to keep in touch with your ex?”

Is it a written rule you must break off all contacts or burn bridges from your ex once you are engaged or married?

Does your spouse demands you break all contacts with your ex?

One of the successful ingredients in a relationship is trust. It is the upmost important ingredient. You break that trust you are kaput! I am sure PM had read or known about PoD lifestyle, about his male and female friends and about his up and downs. His is a high profile life and nothing will escape the press about his doing and undoing. I am sure before she took the final step into this fairy tale journey; she knows what she is getting into. So why is this unhappiness?

Is it because he spends too much time with his ex? Or is it jealousy, lack of attention, loss of freedom, loss of confidence, loss of trust that created doubts and is creeping in slowly and unknowingly eating into the once magical sparkle of their marriage? Who knows?

But one thing I can tell you. It is wrong to ask your spouse to burn or break all contacts with his or her friends. They are his or her bridges that helped to mould his or her character. The friendships, the relationships, the journeys helped to shape his or her part of his or her life. There were many lessons learned from this part of his or her life journey and it is most utterly unfair to ask him or her to erase this part or memory from his or her life.

Honestly, if you cannot accept his or her friends, jealous of his or her ex’s, fears the unknown or there is any doubts and there is no trust; you should walk away from making any firm commitments. Remember, when you marry, you do not marry him or her only, you are married to his or her family and the baggage (good or bad) comes along with it. Take it or leave it!

If you want to “sapu” me, please do it gently! Over to you.

Helpful Hints:
Psst! You can slowly spring clean and throw away some of those useless baggage at later date.